motherhood

14 Days of Being a Mom-Day 4: Why I Love Being a Mom

The Hardest Part No One Prepares You For

No one really prepares you for the emotional side of motherhood.

Not the deep, overwhelming love…
But the letting go.

Because that’s what motherhood slowly becomes.

Letting go of the baby stage.
Letting go of the little hand that always reached for yours.
Letting go of being the center of their world.

When they’re little, they need you for everything.
Every question.
Every problem.
Every moment.

And then one day… they don’t.

Not in the same way.

They grow up.
They get independent.
They start figuring out life on their own.

And while that’s the goal… it’s also the hardest part.

No one tells you how quiet it can feel.
How proud and heartbroken you can feel at the same time.

You sit there watching them become who they are, knowing you helped shape that…
but also realizing they don’t need you like they used to.

And that’s where motherhood stretches you.

Because you have to learn how to hold on… while also letting go.

You have to learn how to step back… without ever stepping away.

And somehow, you keep loving them just as deeply—if not more—even as things change.

That’s the hardest part.

Not the sleepless nights.
Not the toddler years.

But learning how to grow with them… even when it hurts a little.

🧡 ⎯thee unfiltered mama

💛Day 4 of 14

14 Days of Being a Mom-Day 2: Why I Love Being a Mom

Why do I love being a mom?

Honestly… it’s not because it’s easy.
It’s not because every day is perfect.

It’s because of the love.

💛 It’s the Love That Changes You

There’s nothing that prepares you for the kind of love you feel when you become a mom.

It’s instant… but it also grows every single day.

A love that:

Makes you worry more than you ever have
Makes you care deeper than you thought possible
Makes your whole world shift

And somehow, even on the hardest days… that love never changes.

🫶 It’s the Little Things

I don’t love motherhood because of big, picture-perfect moments.

I love it because of:

The random “I love you, mom”
The hugs that come out of nowhere
The way they look at you like you’re their whole world

Those little things?
They’re everything.

🌿 It Gives Life More Meaning

Before kids, life looked different.

But now…

Everything I do has more purpose.
More meaning.
More heart behind it.

Even the smallest things feel bigger—because I’m doing them for them.

😅 Even the Hard Days Matter

Let’s be real—motherhood is exhausting.

There are days where:

I feel overwhelmed
I question myself
I just need a minute to breathe

But even in those moments…

I know this is exactly where I’m meant to be.

✨ At the End of It All

Being a mom has stretched me, changed me, and shaped me in ways nothing else ever could.

And even on the messy days…
the loud days…
the completely overwhelming days…

I still love being their mom.

💛
Day 2 of 14 — and this journey is just getting started.

🧡⎯thee unfiltered mama

“I Wonder What Version of Me My Kids Will Remember”

There are days I catch myself staring in the mirror a little longer than usual…
Not because I’m fixing my hair or makeup—
but because I’m trying to pull myself together before I walk back out that door.

Because motherhood doesn’t pause just because I’m overwhelmed.
It doesn’t wait until I feel okay again.

And sometimes I wonder…

What version of me will my kids remember?

Will they remember the mom who needed a few extra minutes in the bathroom just to breathe?
The one who felt stretched too thin, overstimulated, and unsure if she was getting any of it right?

Or will they remember something else?

Will they remember the mom who still showed up—
even on the days she felt like she had nothing left to give?

The one who got out of bed when she was exhausted.
The one who made the meals, even when she didn’t feel like eating herself.
The one who gave hugs, kisses, and “I love you’s” like they were second nature…
even when inside, she was quietly falling apart.

Because here’s the truth we don’t talk about enough:

Motherhood isn’t perfect.
It’s messy.
It’s emotional.
It’s overwhelming in ways no one can fully prepare you for.

And some days…
you’re not the mom you wanted to be.

But you’re still the mom they need.

I think about the moments I didn’t get it right.
The times I raised my voice.
The times I felt touched out, burned out, and just… done.

Those moments sit heavy.

But then there are the other moments too—

The bedtime snuggles.
The random “I love you, Mom.”
The way they still come to me when they’re hurt, scared, or need comfort.

And it makes me wonder if maybe… just maybe…

They don’t see me the way I see myself.

Maybe they don’t replay the hard moments the way I do.
Maybe they don’t keep score of the times I fell short.

Maybe they just remember that I was there.

That no matter what I was going through…
I stayed.

I showed up.
I kept going.
I loved them—through the chaos, through the exhaustion, through the healing.

And maybe that’s what matters most.

Not perfection.
Not having it all together.

But presence.

Because we’re all still learning.
We’re all still healing.
We’re all trying to figure this out as we go.

And doing that while raising little humans?

That’s not failure.

That’s strength.

So if you’re in a season where you feel like you’re barely holding it together…

I want you to hear this:

Your kids don’t need a perfect mom.
They need you.
Exactly as you are.

Showing up.
Trying again.
Loving them anyway.

And one day…

I truly believe they won’t remember the moments you struggled to hold it together.

They’ll remember the love.
The comfort.
The safety.

They’ll remember that you were there.

🧡 ⎯thee unfiltered mama

14 Days of Being a Mom – Day 1: Why I Love Being a Mom

Being a mom isn’t easy.
But it’s one of the deepest kinds of love I’ve ever known.

Some days feel overwhelming. Some days feel like I’m just trying to make it to bedtime. But even in the chaos… there are moments that remind me exactly why I love being a mom.

💛 The Little Moments

It’s not always the big milestones.

It’s the small things:

The random hugs
The “I love you, mom” out of nowhere
The way they still need you, even when they act like they don’t

Those are the moments that stick with me.

🫶 The Love You Can’t Explain

There’s just something about being a mom…

You worry more.
You love harder.
You give pieces of yourself daily—and somehow, your heart just keeps growing.

It’s exhausting, yes.
But it’s also the most meaningful thing I’ve ever done.

🌿 The Growth

Motherhood has changed me in ways I never expected.

It’s made me stronger.
More patient (on most days 😅).
More understanding.

It’s taught me that I’m capable of more than I ever thought.

✨ Even on the Hard Days

Let’s be real—there are hard days.

Days where:

Nothing goes as planned
Everyone is in a mood
You feel touched out, tired, and overwhelmed

But even on those days…

I still wouldn’t trade being their mom for anything.

💭 At the End of the Day

When everything quiets down…

And I finally get a second to breathe…

I realize—

This life, as messy and chaotic as it is…
is exactly where I’m meant to be.

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Day 1 of 14 — and this is just the beginning.

14 Days of Being a Mom-Day 3: Why I Love Being a Mom

Things I Wish I Knew Before Becoming a Mom

Before I became a mom, I thought I had a pretty good idea of what it would be like.

I thought I understood love.
I thought I understood exhaustion.
I thought I understood responsibility.

But the truth is… I didn’t know anything the way I thought I did.

No one really tells you how your whole world shifts overnight. Not just your schedule or your sleep—but you. Who you are, how you think, what you feel… it all changes in ways you can’t prepare for.

I wish I would have known that it’s okay to not have it all together.

There were days when the house was messy, I hadn’t brushed my hair, and I was running on nothing but coffee and survival mode. I used to think that meant I was failing… but now I see it meant I was showing up. And sometimes, showing up is more than enough.

I wish I would have known how fast it all goes.

When you’re in the thick of it—diapers, tantrums, sleepless nights—it feels like it will last forever. You’re counting down to the next nap, the next stage, the next moment of quiet.

But now? I look at my kids, older and growing into their own people, and I realize those “long days” were actually the shortest moments of my life.

I wish I would have held on a little tighter.
Stayed a little longer.
Worried a little less about the small things.

I wish I would have known that every phase—no matter how hard—passes.

The crying stops.
The messes get smaller.
The chaos quiets down.

And one day, you’ll miss the very things that once overwhelmed you.

I wish I would have known that being a mom isn’t about being perfect.

It’s about being present.

It’s about loving through the hard days, the loud days, the messy, imperfect, beautiful days.

If I could go back, I wouldn’t change the struggles—because they shaped me. But I would remind myself to breathe more, soak it in, and trust that I was doing better than I thought.

Because that’s the thing about motherhood…

You don’t have to be perfect to be exactly what your kids need.

🧡⎯thee unfiltered mama

💛Day 3 of 14