Motherhood

14 Days of Being a mom – Day 3 Why I love Being a Mom

“Things I Wish I Knew Before Becoming a Mom”

Before I became a mom, I thought I had a pretty good idea of what it would be like.

I thought I understood love. I thought I understood exhaustion. I thought I understood responsibility.

But the truth is…I didn’t know anything the way I thought I did.

No one really tells you how your whole world shifts overnight. Not just your schedule or your sleep – but you. Who you are, how you think, what you feel…it all changes in ways you can’t prepare for.

I wish I would have known that’s it’s okay to not have it all together.

There were days when the house was messy, I hadn’t brushed my hair, and I was running on nothing but coffee and survival mode. I used to think that meant I was failing… but now I see it meant I was showing up. And sometimes, showing up is more than enough.

I wish I would have known how fast it all goes.

When you’re in the thick of it—diapers, tantrums, sleepless nights—it feels like it will last forever. You’re counting down to the next nap, the next stage, the next moment of quiet.

But now? I look at my kids, older and growing into their own people, and I realize those “long days” were actually the shortest moments of my life.

I wish I would have held on a little tighter.
Stayed a little longer.
Worried a little less about the small things.

I wish I would have known that every phase—no matter how hard—passes.

The crying stops.
The messes get smaller.
The chaos quiets down.

And one day, you’ll miss the very things that once overwhelmed you.

I wish I would have known that being a mom isn’t about being perfect.

It’s about being present.

It’s about loving through the hard days, the loud days, the messy, imperfect, beautiful days.

If I could go back, I wouldn’t change the struggles—because they shaped me. But I would remind myself to breathe more, soak it in, and trust that I was doing better than I thought.

Because that’s the thing about motherhood…

You don’t have to be perfect to be exactly what your kids need.

🧡 thee unfiltered mama